Dating with a disability: What does the future hold?

 

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Conversations about the future are a feature of any budding relationship. They’re the best way to tell if you’re both on the same page. They’re also a fantastic judge of whether things could work out in the long-term. Still, talking about those ‘big questions’ can be tough. Most of us worry about coming across as too keen or finding a difference in opinion we can’t work past.

When you’re living with a disability, though, that tough stuff becomes even harder. What’s more, you generally have little choice but to broach the issues sooner. That can take untold strain, and could even be enough to keep you single. And, we’re not going to paint the issue for you; future conversations like these can be tough.

Remind yourself, though, that a partner worth your time will stick with you no matter what the future holds. If they walk away after hearing the tough stuff, it’s their loss. With that in mind, here are the future considerations you can’t afford to put off if you want your relationship to stay on the right footing.

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Possible health changes-  It’s fair to say that broaching potential changes to your health can be the trickiest thing. Admittedly, not everyone with a disability has to face this. But, anyone at risk of degeneration or further complications should be open. If your partner knows what to expect, they’re more likely to stick with you through the tough stuff. If it all comes as a horrible surprise, you may end up tackling break ups or searching for help from professionals like this divorce lawyer at the worst time. That would be far from ideal when your health should be your priority.

We’re not saying you need a massive ‘this is what could happen’ chat with your partner. If it helps you broach the topic, it may even be worth pointing them towards a few resources. It’s not the most romantic thing, but it is one way of dealing with a difficult topic. Failing that, sit them down and talk about things like doctor’s visits. In a general sense, let them know how your health could change in the future. You don’t even need to make this an obvious relationship matter. Treat it as a general chat. You’ll be able to tell straight away whether they come across as supportive or reluctant.

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Should you have kids?- It’s fair to say that broaching potential changes to your health can be the trickiest thing. Admittedly, not everyone with a disability has to face this. But, anyone at risk of degeneration or further complications should be open. If your partner knows what to expect, they’re more likely to stick with you through the tough stuff. If it all comes as a horrible surprise, you may end up tackling breakups or searching for help from professionals like this divorce lawyer at the worst time.

That would be far from ideal when your health should be your priority. We’re not saying you need a massive ‘this is what could happen’ chat with your partner. If it helps you broach the topic, it may even be worth pointing them towards a few resources. It’s not the most romantic thing, but it is one way of dealing with a difficult topic. Failing that, sit them down and talk about things like doctor’s visits. In a general sense, let them know how your health could change in the future. You don’t even need to make this an obvious relationship matter. Treat it as a general chat. You’ll be able to tell straight away whether they come across as supportive or reluctant.

This is an issue every couple comes up against at some stage. The nerve-wracking child chat. When you’re living with a disability, though, it can be a whole different ball game which you need to broach. In some cases, you may be physically unable to carry children. In that case, it’s only fair to let your partners know this. Or, it may be that you can and do want children. In this case, let your partner know in all the cutesy ways most couples employ. Either way, crossed wires here could lead to break down, so don’t let this matter get out of control.

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2 thoughts on “Dating with a disability: What does the future hold?

  1. I’m currently engaged for a year. Both my fiancée and I have spina bifida so I can pretty much understand and appreciate what you’re saying here. My fiancéeand I still have a lot to work on but we’re going on strong have been together for years.
    This is a great blog. Keep up the good work.

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