Finding that perfect someone is hard enough when you are abled but when you throw a disability into the mix it gets a little more challenging. If you have a disability you may have low-self esteem and struggle with seeing the good things in life but did you know these things can be putting extra stress on your relationships? Everybody wants to find that perfect someone but if you are having problems accepting your disability it may not be a good idea to get in a relationship just yet. If you are serious about getting into a healthy relationship here are a few things you may need to focus and improve on.
If you have low self-esteem it is going to be very difficult to get into a healthy long- lasting relationship. Positive affirmations are a good way to build your self-confidence and become aware of your worth. If you aren’t a confident person you will start doubting yourself and believe you are less of a human being than your partner. If you don’t love yourself then how are you going to love someone else? Getting out of this negative mindset will take time and in some cases may require therapy or meditation classes but until you build a positive relationship with yourself you won’t be able to have a healthy long-lasting relationship with someone else.
One of the reasons why some relationships fail is because of lack of communication. If your relationship is struggling and you think you need help from an expert to help you get back on track you can always turn to Mediation Services for assistance. To have a healthy relationship both parties have to be communicating with each other and if they aren’t it’s probably not going to work. If your relationship is struggling but you aren’t quite ready to give up on it yet consulting an expert may be able to help you resolve some of your relationships problems, therefore, saving your marriage!
Asking for help
One of the hardest things that disabled people have to go through (especially newly disabled) is accepting that sometimes you may need extra assistance with certain tasks in order to get stuff done. You don’t want to rely on other people all the time to do things for you so sometimes you would rather struggle than ask for help. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do things by yourself without assistance but if you are too proud to ever ask for help that is when it can put a serious strain on your relationship. A disability is something you cannot control so there is nothing wrong with asking for help. If you are too proud to ask for help you will push the people who care about you the most away and risk being single for the rest of your life.
Admitting You Are Wrong
Some people may agree that the hardest part of a relationship is admitting that you are not always right. You will need to make sure that you are able to look at situations in a rational way, without letting your emotions take over! Your partners point of view in certain situations is just as important as yours so always make sure you hear them out.
If your partner upset you give yourself time to calm down, write down your thoughts and try to understand your partner’s point of view. When you are ready to revisit the conversation sit down with your partner and rationally come up with a solution you are both happy with!
Finding Supportive People
Choosing the right partner when you are disabled is so important! When you are disabled you will have a lot of needs that may need extra attention so you will want to find someone who accepts you for who are and will be supportive of you through your good and bad days. If you find a partner who has a positive attitude towards life and is willing to stand with you no matter what then you have found that special person! Treasure that moment and hold onto it because once you lose it you may never get it back. Positive role models and encouragement from your partner is what keeps your relationship going and making the most out of your life.
It will be almost impossible to get into a long- lasting relationship if you don’t love yourself or have not learned to embrace your disability. Entering the dating world if you are unhappy will not make you happier because happiness is found within you! Take time to learn to love yourself and embrace your disability before looking for a partner. If you have any questions about how to deal with relationship issues with a disability please leave them in the comments below.
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